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Marriage for Widowed Blessed Unificationists
Family Care Ministries Manager: Steve Honey (pictured here) is the best person to contact regarding our precious widowed brothers and sisters.
Special note: Though, there is no legal relationship between the BFM and OMS, there is a relationship of trust and heart as we work together towards the fulfilment of God's will.
The nature of the Marriage Blessing is that it is an "eternal marriage" between one man and one woman. The couple will ultimately dwell in the spirit world together. As such, the issue of Blessed widows and widowers remarrying after their spouse ascends is complicated. In light of this, and due to many complications in the spiritual world, the guidelines of receiving a Comfort Blessing has gone through several changes throughout the history of our Movement.
For questions and concerns regarding the Comfort Blessing, please contact Steve.
A personal message
As the originator of the Online Matching System, it is my responsibility to think through all things Matching and Blessing. I do not want to hurt anyone or lead anyone down a wrong path, even inadvertently. Cheon Il Guk Incorporated and the Online Matching System are here to serve an ever-growing group of individuals who seek the Marriage Blessing of our True Parents.
The group of Blessed widows and widowers is also a growing segment of our Movement; I do not want to forget them or just let them be. Some of our blessed children have become orphans. We also have children with only one parent, as well as older ladies and gentlemen who could benefit from companionship.
The Comfort Blessing difficulties come from the fact that the spiritual world is involved, and talking, and making a lot of noise. And, we, on earth need to sort it all out. Let us bear in mind, that the spiritual world is made up of people just like us—imperfect being growing towards their perfection. So, our spouses are talking and we are listening. However, widows and widowers have the duty to also speak their mind and argue in their defense for the sake of their sanity, their children, and their spiritual growth. Just like when our spouses were on this earth, we did not always agree on everything, and we had to make our points and explain our own view. It is still the same except that one is in the spiritual world and the other is on earth.
Given the history of the Comfort Blessing being open at times in the past, and the possibility that it may become available in the future, OMS has chosen to keep a platform available for Blessed widows and widowers to connect with and support one another. OMS will not encourage what steps an individual should take. OMS is simply there to provide a venue centered on God and the True Parents.
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Receive May 15, 2017
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I wanted to tell you I really really appreciated your phone call. I felt like I tried to reach out, do my 5% (as the church would say), hoping something would change and I felt like I was shut down a lot of times In the past. You making that phone call twice and the email you sent was the most anyone in the church has ever done for me in such a long time. And It really touched me.
I just wanted to let you know, I wanted to try using OMS once, seriously commit to it, and see what happens from it. I hope I can try to find time to do it sometime soon... within the month.
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Received September 2017
Hi Anne- Marie,
I would like to let you know that I got blessed during the recent Blessing. It was done by means of parents' matching. My spouse is from ---. I participated in the ceremony in September.
I would like to thank you for the love and support you have given me on this long and tough journey. Thank you so much for encouraging me to fearlessly pursue True Parents' vision. Your support came at a time when I was being ridiculed and belittled by elders and those in leadership. There were even threats after you wrote a letter to International HQ.
During the difficult times it meant a lot to me that a person that I had never met was urging me on and giving me love. It is because of that support that I am where I am today. I hope God gives you the strength to carry on as well as to bless you in your personal life and whatever you do.
Received from a Pastor
This newsletter is great. I feel this is really precious. I want to share it with the young First Gen in our community, all of whom are currently going through matching education. I feel you really highlighted some concerns they have and your words were soothing. I will share this with the community as I feel that not enough people are even aware of OMS, let alone your heart and investment behind the project. Thank you, Thank you.
Received from Candidates
I truly appreciate your concern and investment in OMS. At this time I'm waiting patiently to be interviewed by a sister in my hometown. Without your support and enthusiasm, I believe working through details to become a Candidate would have overwhelmed me. Although I began this process several years ago, and just now feel close to becoming a Candidate after 4 1/2 years, I've learned quite a bit from my Heavenly Parent about patience and sincerity.
Thank you for your constancy, effort and example. I have a dog, and it touched my heart that you showed a picture of your dog and cat in the newsletter. It is amazing how much help pets, and the creation overall have been in this family, and in helping my son and I manage stress and conflicts. He is over 15 now, but I wish I'd thought of getting a dog to walk and for my son to interact with at an earlier juncture in our life. Perhaps that's why you included their picture? Our dog is the one member of our family that we can always count on to make us laugh with or at her or at one another! When I finally get all parts of the BFM application completed, I'll begin again on the OMS site. It can't hurt to be as thorough as possible. Gratefully.
Thank you. This letter really helped free me up. I felt really understood as a young first gen. It is the reason I haven't been working on my process recently. It hurt my self-esteem and was stopping me from seeing my true value to God and his plan to restore the world. I also have grown in my understanding of the heart it takes for the advisors to provide a suggestion to me and I will respect that much more moving forward.