FAQs

Why the Privacy? see below...

 

What's New:

New website for OMS

demoThank you so much, all of you for your support in the last seven years.  This is our third "new look".  Your feedback are always welcome.  Tell us what you want to see, what you want to read and we shall try to provide it to the best of our abilities.

Updated: November, 16 2016

Testimonies:

From Candidates:

demoThank you. This letter really helped free me up. I felt really understood as a young first gen. It is the reason I haven't been working on my process recently. It hurt my self-esteem and was stopping me from seeing my true value to God and his plan to restore the world. I also have grown in my understanding of the heart it takes for the advisors to provide a suggestion to me and I will respect that much more moving forward.


I truly appreciate your concern and investment in OMS. At this time I'm waiting patiently to be interviewed by a sister in my hometown. Without your support and enthusiasm, I believe working through details to become a candidate would have overwhelmed me. Although I began this process in 2010, and just now feel close to becoming a candidate after 4 1/2 years, I've learned quite a bit from my Heavenly Parent about patience and sincerity.

Thank you for your constancy, effort and example. I have a dog, and it touched my heart that you showed a picture of your dog and cat in the newsletter. It is amazing how much help pets, and the creation overall have been in this family, and in helping my son and I manage stress and conflicts. He is over 15 now, but I wish I'd thought of getting a dog to walk and for my son to interact with at an earlier juncture in our life. Perhaps that's why you included their picture? Our dog is the one member of our family that we can always count on to make us laugh with or at her or at one another!

When I finally get all parts of the BFM application completed, I'll begin again on the OMS site. It can't hurt to be as thorough as possible.

Gratefully.

Testimonies:

From Pastors.

demoThis is great. I feel this is really precious. I want to share it with the young first gen in our community, all of whom are currently going through matching education. I feel you really highlighted some concerns they have and your words were soothing. I will share this with the community as I feel that not enough people are even aware of OMS, let alone your heart and investment behind the project.

Thank you, Thank you.

Frequently Asked Questions

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  1. What is the relationship between
    1. Cheon Il Guk Incorporated
    2. the Online Matching System (OMS), and
    3. the Blessed Family Departments of the Unification Movement?
  2. How to view flash based website on my iPad?
  3. Why are pictures not displayed up front?
  4. What is the difference between a Liminted Profile and a Full Profile?
  5. What is the difference between the responsibility of a matching advisor and a sponsor/advocate?
  6. Should I complete the Matching & Blessing Application in its entirety prior to becoming a candidate on OMS?
  7. What is the difference between the MBA (Matching & Blessing Application - North America) and OMS (Online Matching System)?
  8. How long is it going to take to find a suitable spouse?
  9. I am a man who is over 45 years old,what are my chances to find someone with whom I can still raise a family?
  10. I believe in God and live a principled way of life as taught by the True Parents, but I don't much identify myself as a church member or care about all the rituals that come along with it.  Can I still find a spouse?
  11. What is the difference between BFM, BFA, Matchbook, OMS, International site, and the European site?
  12. Who is ultimately responsible for finding the spouse to whom I will be blessed?
  13. Why the Privacy?

What is the relationship between

  1. Cheon Il Guk Incorporated,

  2. the Online Matching System (OMS), and

  3. the Blessed Family Departments of the Unification Movement?

Cheon Il Guk Incorporated (CIGI) is a privately owned not-for-profit organization created to support the "Online Matching System", a service to help individuals who seek the Marriage-Blessing search for their spouse.

The relationship between CIGI, OMS and the BFDs is a relationship of trust. At the time of this writing, OMS is provided free of charge to all BFDs and their staff members. OMS does not override the leadership of the BFDs and each person listed as a "candidate" for the Matching and Blessing has been approved by the BFD of their respective country.

CIGI is not in charge of matching and blessing applications and does not provide that kind of service.

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 How to view flash based website on my iPad ?

  • Please download the following document: "How to View Flash Based Websites on an iPad" or follow the instruction below:
    • Download a browser app that supports Flash from the App Store. Puffin Web Browser is one option that offers a free version.
    • Tap the Safari icon to launch the Safari web browser.
    • Browse to the site you want to view and tap the URL bar twice. Tap Select All from the menu that appears.
    • Tap Copy on the next menu that appears.
    • From your iPad’s Home screen, launch your Flash compatible browser by tapping its icon.
    • Tap the URL bar within the app and tap the X to clear the current web address.
    • Tap the URL bar again and tap Paste from the menu that appears. Now tap Go on the on screen keyboard.
    • The Flash site will now be visible on your iPad.
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Why are pictures not displayed up front?

  • While pictures are very important, due to the degree of personal privacy we work to maintain on this website, pictures will only be available for viewing when you have reached a certain stage in your candidate prospecting. Additionally, a person can be recognized through his or her picture. For this reason, we want pictures to be handled very privately and respectfully.
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What is the difference between a Limited Profile and a Full Profile?

  • A Limited Profile DOES NOT identify the individual.
    A Limited Profile does not provide pictures, email address, physical address, phone # and other identifiable information A Limited Profile does not even give the name of the pastor, sponsor, or advisor of the individual. A Limited Profile gives information about:
    •  Race and age,
    • Education, and work
    • Previous marriages and/or blessings
    • Children
    • Health
    • Answers to all the essay questions.
    A Limited Profile, if well written, an individual should have a pretty good idea of the kind of person who has written the profile and can therefore make an educated decision whether or not they would like to pursue knowing this person. That is the purpose of the Limited Profile.
  • A Full Profile contains all information listed on the Limited Profile plus pictures and all indentifying information provided through OMS.
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What is the difference between the responsibility of a Matching Advisor and a sponsor/advocate?

  • A Matching Advisor is a person who is willing to take responsibility for the matching and blessing of others. Matching Advisors are trusted and educated by the Blessed Family Departments to fulfill this responsibility. An MA is tasked to help you with paperwork. One extremely important function is that MAs also help determine if an applicant qualifies to become a candidate. Thus, OMS will NOT overrule an MA’s decision.
  • In the USA, MAs work with local representatives of the BFM and with local Pastors. However, Pastors and BFM reps are not necessarily MAs. Applicants should relate to an MA whom they trust and who knows them well. This is critical in receiving approval to become a candidate on OMS.
  • A sponsor is someone who knows an applicant well. A sponsor should be able to vouch for the integrity and the character of the applicant. A sponsor does not have to be an MA. A sponsor can help the MA because he or she understands an applicant's qualification and background. A sponsor and an MA can together work in the approval process for an applicant.
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Should I complete the Matching Candidate Application in its entirety prior to becoming a candidate on OMS?

  • YES, you should. Regardless of where you live and through which Blessed Family Department you register your Matching Candidate Application, until you are approved as a Blessing Candidate (by your BFD), the Online Matching System will show your profile as an “Applicant,” not a “Candidate.”
  • It is our suggestion that you complete your Matching Candidate Application and your Online Matching System profile concurrently. A lot of information on the Matching Candidate Application can simply be copied and pasted to your OMS profile. Thus, if you work on your OMS profile and your Matching Candidate Application at the same time, as soon as your Matching Candidate Application is approved, your status on OMS can be changed from Applicant to Candidate.
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What is the difference between the Matching Candidate Application for Blessing - North America and the OMS (Online Matching System) profile?

  • The completion of the Matching Candidate Application, which you submit online via a link on the Blessing and Family Ministry (USA) website, will prove you are qualified to attend a future Blessing.
  • The Online Matching System profile is one of the tools you will use to find your heavenly spouse. OMS is the only online tool of this kind, at this time, for all 1st generation Unificationists and Associate Members. It is very useful and strongly recommended by the Blessing and Family Ministry (USA).
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How long is it going to take to find a suitable spouse?

  • Finding a spouse is neither a race nor a competition. Rushing and skipping the process won’t help. Regardless of one’s age and circumstance the best way to find one’s heavenly spouse is to start at the beginning and overcome each obstacle as their come. It is important to keep focus and not put the tasks that are required on the back burner. At some point you will find yourself having to answer important questions about who you are, your faith, your family vision, and so on. These small essays are possibly the most important papers you could write in your whole life. Do it well and do it truthfully.
  • If you want me to give you an exact time frame, I would estimate six months to several years.  In our experience that is what it will take from the time you are a candidate, not from the time you are thinking about becoming one. Please remember, you are not alone. None of us are.  You have a plan for your life, so does God, our Heavenly Parent. Do your part so that God can do his part.
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I am a man who is over 45 years old, what are my chances to find someone with whom I can still raise a family?

  • While it is possible for you to find someone around your sam age, your chances to find someone young enough with whom to have at least one child with depend on the size of our pool of candidates and your requirements in the choice of a spouse. You have nothing to lose and all to gain by going through the process and trying.
  • Let me approach the subject of the size of our pool of candidates. The membership of the Unification Movement worldwide is still quite small in comparison with many other religious organizations. However, not small enough to not make a difference, therefore, word-of-mouth "advertising" is extremely important. If you are reading this and if you feel that this particular site is doing a good job, then, please, advertise your candidacy. Talk about it, write about it.
  • While only a small percentage of our membership is currently registered through our site.  OMS is willing, ready, and able to serve a  large pool of candidates. OMS works very closely with every nation's Blessing Family Departments and do not override their leadership. Members and affiliates of the Unification Movement will not be turn down if they register on OMS. Everyone will receive the support they need to find their heavenly spouse.
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I believe in God and live a principled way of life as taught by the True Parents, but I don't much care about the "church" and all the rituals. Can I still find a spouse?

  • Yes, you are not alone. Practicing one’s faith is a very private matter and no one should be judged for not practicing rituals for rituals sake. Rituals are there to support one’s faith, not dominate it.
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What is the difference between BFM, BFA, Matchbook, OMS, and the International Matching Site?

  • Each site has a different purpose. Basically there are two purposes.
    • Proof of eligibility to be a candidate (only one site)
      • There is only one site in the USA. It is the Blessing and Family Ministry at http://bfm.familyfed.org. That is where you will find the official online matching and blessing application. This online application serves the North American continent only at this time.
      • All the other BFDs have their own (pen and paper) application.
    • Searching for a spouse (multiple sites)
      • Blessed Family Association (BFA). The oldest site,  started by a group of Unificationists who desired to help other Unificationist families. It is funded through private donations and does not fall under the leadership of HSA-UWC. One of the services they provide is called, “Matchbook”. It is a database where children of Unificationists can search for their heavenly spouse.
      • The International Matching Site, established October 2007, falls under the umbrella of HSA-UWC. This site is a joint venture by the headquarters of the Unification Movements of Korea, Japan, European, and the United States. (It supports three languages – Korean, Japanese, and English.) It is a database where children of Unificationists can search for their heavenly spouse.
      • Online Matching System – (The site through which you are reading this information) became live October 1st, 2010. This site is privately funded and just like the BFA, does not fall under the leadership of HSA-UWC
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Why the Privacy?

Searching for a life partner is not an easy thing to do. Both sides have to be truthful about personal situations in regards to physical, mental, and social abilities as well as health. It is not possible to easily or deeply share that kind of information with a “stranger”. Such personal life details can be shared once a feeling of trust has been established. Anonymity can serve such trust building.

During a preliminary search, candidates and their parents will have the option to read what OMS calls a candidate’s “Limited Profile.” A Limited Profile does not reveal the identity of the candidate but, if well written, should provide enough information to give the reader a pretty good idea of the person’s character. The ability to ask questions about a Limited Profile via a private and secure anonymous email system is necessary to keep both sides honest and without the fear of being “discovered”.

That is the difference between OMS and the other systems available at this time are. The ability to request a Full Profile is another important focus. Once a full profile has been granted by the other party, both sides will focus on what the Family Matching Handbook refers to as the “Introduction Phase.” If, after some time, both parties no longer wish to continue the relationship, they can both simply email OMS of that intention. OMS will then reset each candidate’s file so that the search for a different person can begin

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