to everyone with special needs
The Marriage Blessing is a gift that the True Parents are offering today to everyone.
This site would like to facilitate the ability for individuals with unique needs to find their heavenly spouse. In some cases these individuals can do the work on their own and live a very full life independently with a spouse. In other cases, it will not be possible.
Whatever the situation, all Special Needs Candidates and their parents are welcome!
The Marriage Blessing
—most sacred sacramentFor Unificationists the Marriage Blessing is the most sacred sacrament. Parents who have adult children with extreme challenges may very well still want their child to receive the Marriage Blessing. The Online Matching System wants to support such families by providing a venue where they can meet and talk.
We have families across the world with adult children who might be severely challenged. It may never be possible for these individuals to live independently outside of a full-time care team. Some may not be even able to recognize their own situation. However, each of them is still precious and their lives should be honored. Offering the Marriage Blessing through their family is a gift that should not be withheld. That is why this service is offered—With gratitude and love.
A few Q & A
How long is it going to take to find a suitable spouse?
Finding a spouse is neither a race nor a competition. Rushing and skipping part of the process won’t help. Regardless of one’s age and circumstance, the best way to find one’s heavenly spouse is to start at the beginning and overcome each obstacle as they come. It is important to keep focus and not put the tasks that are required on the back burner. At some point you will find yourself having to answer important questions about who you are, your faith, your family vision, and so on. Your essays are possibly the most important papers you will write in your whole life. Do it well and do it truthfully.
If you want me to give you a time frame, I would estimate six months to several years. In our experience, that is what it will take from the time you are a Candidate, not from the time you are thinking about becoming one. Please remember, you are not alone. None of us are. You have a plan for your life, so does God, our Heavenly Parent. Do your part so that God can do His part.
Why the privacy?
Searching for a life partner is not an easy thing to do. Both sides have to be truthful about personal situations in regards to physical, mental, and social abilities as well as health. It is not possible to easily or deeply share that kind of information with a “stranger.” Such personal life details can be shared once a feeling of trust has been established. Anonymity can serve such trust building.
During a preliminary search, Candidates and their parents (if parents are involved) will have the option to read what OMS calls a Candidate’s “Limited Profile.” A Limited Profile does not reveal the identity of the candidate but, if well written, should provide enough information to give the reader a pretty good idea of the person’s character. The ability to ask questions about a Limited Profile via a private and secure anonymous email system is necessary to keep both sides honest and without the fear of being “discovered.”
That is the difference between OMS and the other systems available at this time.
The ability to request a Full Profile is another important focus. Once a Full Profile has been granted by the other party, both sides will focus on what the Family Matching Handbook refers to as the “Introduction Phase.” If, after some time, both parties no longer wish to continue the relationship, they can both simply email OMS of that intention. OMS will then reset each Candidate’s file so that the search for a different person can begin.
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Receive May 15, 2017
Hello, I am sorry my response took time. I wanted to make sure I had time to sit in front of my computer and type this but seems life is not giving me this time. I write to you as I am in bed with the lights off so I can get few hours of sleep before I go to work after I send this to you.
I wanted to tell you I really really appreciated your phone call. I felt like I tried to reach out, do my 5% (as the church would say), hoping something would change and I felt like I was shut down a lot of times In the past. You making that phone call twice and the email you sent was the most anyone in the church has ever done for me in such a long time. And It really touched me.
I just wanted to let you know, I wanted to try using OMS once, seriously commit to it, and see what happens from it. I hope I can try to find time to do it sometime soon... within the month.
I just wanted to let you know.
Good night & Thank you.
Received September 2017
Hi Anne- Marie,
I would like to let you know that I got blessed during the recent Blessing. It was done by means of parents' matching. My spouse is from ---. I participated in the ceremony in September.
I would like to thank you for the love and support you have given me on this long and tough journey. Thank you so much for encouraging me to fearlessly pursue True Parents' vision. Your support came at a time when I was being ridiculed and belittled by elders and those in leadership. There were even threats after you wrote a letter to International HQ.
During the difficult times it meant a lot to me that a person that I had never met was urging me on and giving me love. It is because of that support that I am where I am today. I hope God gives you the strength to carry on as well as to bless you in your personal life and whatever you do.
Received from a Pastor
This newsletter is great. I feel this is really precious. I want to share it with the young First Gen in our community, all of whom are currently going through matching education. I feel you really highlighted some concerns they have and your words were soothing. I will share this with the community as I feel that not enough people are even aware of OMS, let alone your heart and investment behind the project. Thank you, Thank you.
Received from Candidates
I truly appreciate your concern and investment in OMS. At this time I'm waiting patiently to be interviewed by a sister in my hometown. Without your support and enthusiasm, I believe working through details to become a Candidate would have overwhelmed me. Although I began this process several years ago, and just now feel close to becoming a Candidate after 4 1/2 years, I've learned quite a bit from my Heavenly Parent about patience and sincerity.
Thank you for your constancy, effort and example. I have a dog, and it touched my heart that you showed a picture of your dog and cat in the newsletter. It is amazing how much help pets, and the creation overall have been in this family, and in helping my son and I manage stress and conflicts. He is over 15 now, but I wish I'd thought of getting a dog to walk and for my son to interact with at an earlier juncture in our life. Perhaps that's why you included their picture? Our dog is the one member of our family that we can always count on to make us laugh with or at her or at one another! When I finally get all parts of the BFM application completed, I'll begin again on the OMS site. It can't hurt to be as thorough as possible. Gratefully.
Thank you. This letter really helped free me up. I felt really understood as a young first gen. It is the reason I haven't been working on my process recently. It hurt my self-esteem and was stopping me from seeing my true value to God and his plan to restore the world. I also have grown in my understanding of the heart it takes for the advisors to provide a suggestion to me and I will respect that much more moving forward.