The Matching Process

“Respect all things as holy things. Respect all people as holy people. Respect yourself as a holy person. Respect your mind as holy. Respect your body as holy. Pay deep respect to all people, no matter what kind of person they may be.” Sun Myung Moon


What's New:

New website for OMS

demoThank you so much, all of you for your support in the last seven years.  This is our third "new look".  Your feedback are always welcome.  Tell us what you want to see, what you want to read and we shall try to provide it to the best of our abilities.

Updated: November, 16 2016


From Candidates:

demoThank you. This letter really helped free me up. I felt really understood as a young first gen. It is the reason I haven't been working on my process recently. It hurt my self-esteem and was stopping me from seeing my true value to God and his plan to restore the world. I also have grown in my understanding of the heart it takes for the advisors to provide a suggestion to me and I will respect that much more moving forward.

I truly appreciate your concern and investment in OMS. At this time I'm waiting patiently to be interviewed by a sister in my hometown. Without your support and enthusiasm, I believe working through details to become a candidate would have overwhelmed me. Although I began this process in 2010, and just now feel close to becoming a candidate after 4 1/2 years, I've learned quite a bit from my Heavenly Parent about patience and sincerity.

Thank you for your constancy, effort and example. I have a dog, and it touched my heart that you showed a picture of your dog and cat in the newsletter. It is amazing how much help pets, and the creation overall have been in this family, and in helping my son and I manage stress and conflicts. He is over 15 now, but I wish I'd thought of getting a dog to walk and for my son to interact with at an earlier juncture in our life. Perhaps that's why you included their picture? Our dog is the one member of our family that we can always count on to make us laugh with or at her or at one another!

When I finally get all parts of the BFM application completed, I'll begin again on the OMS site. It can't hurt to be as thorough as possible.



From Pastors.

demoThis is great. I feel this is really precious. I want to share it with the young first gen in our community, all of whom are currently going through matching education. I feel you really highlighted some concerns they have and your words were soothing. I will share this with the community as I feel that not enough people are even aware of OMS, let alone your heart and investment behind the project.

Thank you, Thank you.


The Matching Process for your matching application will be found in these two books



Excerpt from the Family Matching handbook


God’s original design is that children grow in the love of their parents, developing a strong sense of their identity, value and character, and learn to love in the context of their family. These are the foundations for healthy and lasting marriages. Seeking and finding an eternal partner should also be guided by the love and wisdom of supportive parents.


Our challenge is to find that heart and motivation, and create the conditions and process that will allow God to be present and to guide it. How do we as parents, and our children as candidates, get to that place in our hearts to create such a process? We believe this simple handbook, when read thoroughly and considered prayerfully, will help guide and inspire each family. We look forward to your feedback and suggestions, and promise to work hard to continually improve the content and relevance.


Excerpt from Finding the One


The divine union of man and woman through a Marriage Blessing reflects God’s image more fully, and invites God’s presence more powerfully, than a man or woman alone. Husband and wife become one in love and express God’s creativity through bearing children. We develop our capacity to love through receiving the unconditional love of our parents, harmonizing with
siblings, creating a committed and lasting marriage and, finally, learning to love our own children in the same way. The family is sacred, and the Blessing re-creates God’s original love, life and lineage.


This handbook is for single Unificationists and close friends of our faith community who are interested in the matching and Blessing process, and for those who will support them, to inherit the beautiful tradition of matching and the Blessing of Marriage. It is designed to assist them in developing a healthy, God-centered approach to finding their eternal partner and provide prospective couples with the confidence to take ownership of their final decision and make a lasting commitment.




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